Happy Monday everyone! It’s usually the work week that causes us the most stress, or maybe it’s your personal life, or you suffer from anxiety, whatever it is, today I wanted to talk about 3 ways to cope with stress. A warning ahead of time, this is honest, blunt, and may be a bit of tough love for some of you with more delicate dispositions so excuse my frankness and I hope you take all this as positive information!
When it comes to stress and anxiety I have noticed that the majority of the time it is caused by outside forces. Maybe it’s your job, other people, or something in your personal life, but these are all things outside of ourselves. Here are 3 things to keep in mind that may help you cope with outside stresses.
1- Most of the time the things causing us stress are in our control. You can change your job, be better to your body, or move to a new place but you have to see and accept things as they are and discipline yourself to make changes that will get you where you want or these things will continue causing you stress. Focusing on the journey and not reaching the destination can also prevent you from stressing about how far you have yet to go. You can’t let Jesus take the wheel all the time, sometimes you have to steer your own ship, so just remember you have more power than you think and you are in control of your life.
2- If it is another person causing you stress this can be both in and out of our control. On the one hand for example, if you are dating someone who starts treating you like they forgot your value, you can always dump them. But on the other hand, if this person is family, a close friend, or the love of your life, accepting the fact that you can’t make people do what you want can be very therapeutic. You can’t make your partner treat you like a priority, or make your friend be more considerate, or a family member be more respectful. The hard part about this coping method is it requires you to not have so many expectations, accept things as they are now, and let go of the idea that you can change people. Sometimes accepting that it is out of your control and just living your life is the biggest stress reliever.
3- Don’t underestimate the power of distraction. My last tip to dealing with stress is to distract yourself from it. Sometimes things stressing us can cling to our brains and we can think of little else, so finding the perfect distraction can be a big stress reliever. Read a book, watch Netflix, take a long bath, surround yourself with people, exclude yourself from people, whatever works best for you, do that and try to relax and think only of the thing you are doing in that moment.
I hope this post was helpful (and not too harsh!) and I hope you all have a stress free weekend! Here is a little mantra sheet to help you through your day.